Thread: Texanflowr's Low Carb Journey

Rhonda, just wanted you to know you are in my thoughts today. If I had a magic wand I sure would wave away your sorrow during these trying times. Sending you lots of hugs my friend.

{{{{Rhonda}}}}

Rhonda - Bedroom sounds nice. Post a pic if you want.

Feel free to vent here whenever you feel overwhelmed. Divorce is kind of like a death. Requires many of the stages of grief. Though I'm sure you did much of your grieving before you threw the bum out.

Rhonda, I'm sorry things aren't good for you now. Grief will come in waves, just as healing will come in stages. {{{hugs}}}

I think grief is exactly the word for it Rhonda and you have a right to it. Post as often as you need to. You have so many friends here that want to help support.

hey kiddo.... i wish i could figure out what to say...
i hope you got a smile from robs comment about throwing the bum out..i was nearly in tears till i read that..(thanks rob)

he IS right tho.. divorce IS like a death but nothing like something that you already did and are doing on a daily basis (losing a child) THAT my friend is something that you are getting through... and NO amount of MOVING on will change THAT ...(grrrrrrrrrr)

youre a strong lady my friend.... but even the strongest need to shed tears and have to have a shoulder to lean on from time to time..

consider OUR shoulders.. we are certainly willing to listen... i just wish that something i could say would help...

(((((((rhonda)))))))))

Kim, I did get a grin out of Rob's post about "kicking the bum out"..... While I am sad, I know our marriage was nothing but a lie..... You cannot have NO SEX with someone you even remotely love for two years....... that is insane....... It always bugged the hell out of me that he NEVER wanted me...... EVER. Given that with his drinking almost daily.... well.... while he was a "sweet drunk", not something I want to continually have the children think is "normal" either. Don't get me wrong....... before this WOL I would have a few drinks on the weekend or at a power lunch, but NEVER daily. So..... while I miss him, I think I miss what COULD have or SHOULD have been... ya know?

I hope you find what you could have had and should have had for real the next time Rhonda. You deseve it (((hugs)))

yeah,,, i suppose even if there was some PHYSICAL problem or health issue you would still expect some unconventional sex *L*... i wont give pointers here *L* but definitely would be a RED FLAG that something was not right...

my dad was DEFINITELY not a SWEET DRUNK... my ex was a happy drinker when he did..(which wasnt a daily thing,..or even weekly mostly..) but to this DAY i smell stale beer of a small bar outside and SPIN AROUND to look for my dad...(sick and wrong on SO many levels..*sigh*) so i can TELL you from years of experience... it DOES affect a child ..effect a child.. WHATEVER *L* you know what i mean..

moon is not a drinker.... not opposed to a glass of wine or a bit of scotch in a great while... but he is NOT a drinker...


and ... he is DEPENDABLE..*L*..hmmmmmm maybe they go hand in hand eh?

Hey kiddo, hope you're having a good day and that some the fine weather we are having around here finds it's way into your neck of the woods. I'm a smoker too and kepp thinking that one of these days I'm going to kick the habit too. I've quit in the past for up to 6 months at at time. Usually some emotional crisis, or a female relationship, (those seem to go hand in hand a lot ) and I'm back at it agian. A buddy from work has a new girlfriend and she want's him to quit. He has a target date of Sept/October. I'm thinking about joining him. If you are interested in joining us lemme know. We need all the support we can get!
My ex and I weren't very attracted to each other and after 23 years of marraige the bedroom is where we slept. But in order to save the friendship we would occasionally ..ahem.. :o . Personally I think sex (or lack thereof) is a HUGE part of a marraige, and often parallels how the relationship is going over all. Success in one area can mirror or inspire success in the other. Just my $.02.
Anyhoo, how is your little garden and your trees doing?

Hey Kim and Cute Mail Man Yeah.... I had WISHED it were something wrong with him "physically", cause I could have dealt with that and the "unconventional" sex thingie.... but it wasn't..... worked just fine when HE wanted it to... found that "unpleasant" experience out last time he left.... in my journal someplace.... Well, I know it isn't that men don't find me attractive, cause I always get offers to date.... a couple from my neighbor who realized Scott moved away.... and he is MARRIED! A REAL turnoff for me, even if I was ready for that....... which I am NOT by a long shot. Don't need ANOTHER cheater in my life and wouldn't be a party to all the hurt it causes for another..... been there too many times with the exs. It's really strange.... I can be in the elevator on the way to the 21st floor at my office and some attractive man will strike up a conversation and tell me how nice I look... or how pretty I am.... or how my eyes are sooooo beautiful..... Even when I was overweight! Go figure why my DH could not find that with me??? My first ex wanted sex 4 times a day..... course I was MUCH younger and didn't mind it myself *L* Well, sure DH is in TX living it up, but I refuse to think about it...... not a part of my life and worries any longer.

As to the garden and trees mailman....... they are coming along beautifully..... with the exception of my new grape vine :( Turning all brown..... really disappointing. The blackberry and blueberry bushes I planted are coming along famously.

Okay....... know I have BEEN promising pics to you guys..... but here's the kicker....... DD#1 tells me two days ago that she and her BF of like 8 years (began dating at 14 or something..... ummmmm I know too young but it wasn't REALLY dating) are getting married Saturday! Talk about a busy mom..... been calling caterers, shopping for wedding excessories..... She wanted to get married in the courthosue cause didn't want a BIG wedding but I FINALLY talked her into doing it here at my home..... Found a minister for $200 and called in the maid service to clean my house from top to bottom. Usually clean, but you know..... all the people gonna be coming in here, I wanted it spotless and no time on such short notice to do it myself ..... SOOOOO will have some pics for you sometime after Saturday....... Hopefully, I WON'T be becoming a grandma TOO soon! She just graduated college and going on to M.D. school so they figured THIS was the right time ........ all I can do is be supportive.... at least she waited until she was 22!

Renee....... you are a sweetheart. Hoping you are having a GREAT BDAY!

OMG Rhonda!!!!!!!!! Congrats on the new son!!!

Saturday wedding? Wow! That is a kick in the pants. Hope all goes well. My favorite ex-wife Donna and I wanted a simple wedding so I booked an appointment with a lady non-denominational minister that had a lovely little chapel setting in her home and tons of flowers and fountains outside. Right after the service she handed each of us a glass marble. And told us when marriage makes us loose our marbles remember you always have one more left. That really broke everybody up in the room as Donna and I as well as half the guest were Bipolar. Jason snapped a shot as she handed them to us. $75 including a a 25 dollar tip and we have a great memory.

By the way just my 2 cents I don't care if one of you was in a wheel chair, not even that is an excuse for lack of some real sexual healing. Have a few pity parties but be glad you kicked em to the curb and don't doubt your self. You can do better.

Wow Rhonda! That's quick for getting everything together. That's really sweet that you talked them into having it at your house. Those are memories and pictures that they'll have forever....but boy I'll bet you're going to be busy for the next few days.

*whew* okay... ixnay on the questions i asked in GREGGS journal *L*.. i see it all is answered here..

i'm with gregg on the sex thang..*L* whoops.. that sounded bad *L*... i just agree... if it aint the BIGGEST part (uh.. *crimson cheeks*..no pun intended) it better be a big part...

and uh... gregg..i am going to be all OVER your journal with the question of the day... WHY would you be married to someone you werent attracted to...*shaking my head in amazement*..

anywho rhonda... have fun at the wedding... get plenty of tissue...
i cried sobbing WRACKING tears at my sons REHERSAL *L* i had to excuse myself ...*L*...