JGirl - you nailed it when it comes to his being so unhappy and re-routing his anger and frustration onto me. It is so sad. He has so much potential, but he'll go nowhere. I wish I had someone around me that supported me, and was more ambitious. Thus the reason I have a crush on a guy at work, but that's another can of worms. May not be the answer to my misery, but it keeps me dreamy and gives me hope.
I did say the "three day a week" thing, but didn't throw the drug thing in his face. My DD had just gone to bed, and I didn't need him yelling. He goes "OK, well let's see how you like it if I'm working five days a week?" and I go "what do you mean?" and he goes "well, I won't be here to help with Sydney." and I said "and how will that change anything?" Because really, he USED to be more of a hands-on dad, he had to watch her three days a week, but now she's in full-time daycare, which costs us an additional $700/month, and he wanted this so that he could do more work around the house, which hasn't happened, so really, I wake her up, get her ready for daycare, go to work, pick her up from daycare, feed, bathe, read, play with her, put her to bed. He watches TV. I actually get more done around the house when he's gone to work, because I don't have the added distraction. So, it would be great if he could go to work 5 days/wk. But trust me, that won't happen.
I'm going to create a plan, and hang in there for a while. Right now, with both of our incomes, we get the bills paid. I'm going to keep pursuing my business on the side and get my debt down to zero. I"m going to save up 3 mths worth of living expenses. I"m going to keep the gym membership and get to goal weight. Then, when I don't have to worry about weight loss or finances, I'll be free to go.


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Philippians 4:8
I DID IT !!! 
A house free of junk food...sounds like my dream house personally. Sometimes I wish that DH could move in the apartment across the hall. I'd never go over because I'm sure stinky socks would be lying all over the place never to be washed.
Pretty please with splenda on top? 

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