copied from old board 4/4/04

god_still_rulz
Low Carb Eater

BC, saw the success story, and you are absolutely beautiful! It's great to see someone who has been in the Zone since 1998. That's a long time to stick with a plan but well worth it, I am sure!

Also, I had a question for you. I remember you telling me that your goal was to be in the 120's in the beginning but then you got down to where you are now - fluctuating between 104 and 112 lbs - the question is: when you hit 120 lbs, did anyone tell you that you were too thin and you shouldn't lose anymore weight? And how did you deal with those comments - if they did tell you that? See, I am dealing with that right now. That's why I am wondering. I want to get to optimum health, and I am not there yet with where my weight is. Even when I was 130 lbs, people were already starting to comment that I was too thin and didn't need to lose any more weight. Just any suggestions on how to counteract those kinds of comments would be greatly appreciated.

And once again, congragulations on your success!

Sheyla
186/122/105 60.5 inches
Modified LC

The Lord their God shall save them on that day as the flock of his people. They shall sparkle in his land like jewels in a crown. How ATTRACTIVE and BEAUTIFUL they will be! Zechariah 9:16
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Sheyla, thank you so much for your kind words. You are a very sweet person, you know.

Yes, I certainly did experience what you are experiencing now. It started when I was in the 120's and initially took me back a bit. I laugh a little now, but a couple of times I'd go home and look at myself in the mirror to try to see if I they were right and I were just confused about my own body!

It finally occurred to me that different people had different motives for saying that I was getting too thin. A few were truly concerned just because they'd never seen me a normal weight before with cheekbones and collarbones and the skinny fingers I must have inherited from somewhere (hey, I hadn't either, LOL!. For some people, it was almost a way of complimenting me, and not really a very serious concern.... For others, I think my success brought up their own issues and fears about their body image. And unfortunately, a couple for some reason, were actually jealous. Go figure.

I guess what I'm saying is, Sheyla, that I realized that for the most part what people were saying to me about being too thin was more a reflection of them and their inner selves than of any reality about my size. So for the most part I could be very compassionate with them without taking their words to heart. Friends for example I might give a big smile or a hug and say "oh thank you for your concern, Rhonda, but I assure you I've never been healthier in my life......" or "thank you for sharing your opinion".... And then I would just go on and not get drawn into any other discussion of my intended goals. If they kept on, I'd just keep smiling like an idiot and saying "Thank you for your concerns....." I learned not to feel any more obligation to explain myself, my plan, my goals, because no one else really lived in my body, and most people seem to enjoy arguing with me about it if I gave them the opportunity.

Really the only person whose opinion other than my own counted was my husband. At the point when he expressed some concern, we recalculated my body fat percent and took new measurements (all within healthy normal), and since it was time for my checkup anyway, got back my most excellent lab results along with the ecstatic reaction of my Dr. over my weight loss....that was plenty.

Now here's the kicker, Sheyla.....six years later??????? Some of those same people who were so worried and warned me about losing too much are now saying they wished they could look like I do. Others don't even remember that I was overweight! All the talk will pass!!! So my advice is to treat people with respect, but understand in your own heart you do not owe people a detailed explanation of your decisions about your own body.

I hope this helps a little!

BC

172/108/108--5'2"
Zone since 4/98
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Highest Weight 172
Current 104-108