Thread: Help...I fell off the wagon and it drug me down the road...

Hi all well I had the worst binging weekend and I am ashamed to even tell you all when I ate for three days it was awful thou trust me. My question is how do I stop...Is there a supplement I can take to help me stop being all crazy, or is it as I fear.. I just need to stop and rethink things and start all over and just deal with it. I feel so hopeless and stupid for eating all that stuff not to mention quite ill. How do you all stay so faithful? Thanks for any input.

Phinixis, we've all been there! Really. Some people have used supplements, and I'm sure some will pop in here and tell what works for them; but right now you just need to forget those 3 days, and focus on starting over today. Even if you had a really awful breakfast and lunch today, make supper your first clean meal, and take each day as it comes. I personally stay faithful to this woe because I feel so much better than when I eat any other way. I'm not losing a lot, not losing fast, but I don't feel nearly as awful as I did when I was eating more carbs every day. Just tell yourself how awful you feel when you eat wrong, and how much better you feel when you stay on plan.

It might help you to join a challenge or two - if you don't like the challenge, just don't come back. And if you haven't started a journal, then do so. Post often, and you'll soon get lots of people popping in just to say hi, and to encourage you, to cheer you up on your good days, to console with you on your bad.

Don't feel hopeless or stupid. You're human, like all of us. We've all binged, we've all cheated, we could all do better, but we still just keep plugging on.

You can do it!

Phinixis,
I can't really add to the great advice from Nita, but to say that there is NO *magic pill* to help you stop bingeing... You just have to decide what is more important to you.
I know it's been said a million times before -- and we ALL need to remember it (Myself included!!) -- but NOTHING tastes as good as being thin FEELS.
Every time I cheat or rationalize and eat something I shouldn't, I totally know that I am making that CHOICE -- to delay my success.
It IS a choice when we cheat.
We are not under a spell that we cannot control.
That said, we ALL have slipped up and made unhealthy choices. But no amount of herbs or lectures will get us to where we need to be more than a good, hard look at ourselves and the reasons for our choice.
Sure, you can take L-glutamine for the sugar cravings, and Oil of Oregano to combat the yeast, and green tea to speed up your metabolism... and so on and so forth... but you know what?
NONE of that will keep you from cheating again.
It basically just has to be a decision that you make. And sometimes it's a decision you have to make over and over again.
Never give up!

Phinixis, I am going through something very similiar right now-- for me it was just a taste or two of some sugar-free chocolate--- it totally zapped me and suddenly all I wanted was candy and more candy. I did fine all day, too, stayed on plan, but just a little taste of that chocolate really did me in. I ended up eating like 12 pieces of candy in the span of 3 minutes-- and I think I left my body during that time!! It wasn't until later when I told my daughter GET THAT CANDY OUT OF HERE... BRING IT TO YOUR ROOM or something (she has much more control than I) that I realized what I had done.

I think we have to just realize that these things happen... keep coming back here, keep reading your book, taking your supplements, getting on your exercise equipment... just keep on keeping on.

Blessings to you.. thank God we are in a forum with people who understand!

dovey

thanks for all the advice, I know that it was a thought out process. And I rationalized it by thinking that I has lost so much that I should treat myself and that got me in Big trouble. But I am my worst enemy and I know that I just have to forget about it and move on. But I really would like to that everyone who posted, its nice just to hear people that understand and make you feel better than you feel yourself. Thanks again and I am starting over with a new hope for the future.

phinixis-everybody has their moments (or "extended moments" ) where they make poor choices.

oh, but if there were a magic pill...

for me, i do my best after an incident to look at what was going on. what brought it on? as dove mentioned, the little taste of choc. brought out the craving monster for her. for some, it's stress. for others, it's bread or certain situations, or whatever. we all have our triggers, and part of learning to live with this woe is identifying your own triggers.

when this happens, we can beat ourselves up and use it as "proof" we're defective--not my idea of a good time--or we can use it to our own ends. look at it this way: this can be a helpful thing! ask yourself, what set it off? what preceded the overeating? what kept it going? how did you feel? what were you thinking at the time? if you can identify that, you can cut the next one off at the pass.

one thing it sounds like you've certainly learned is that the whole thing really wasn't much of a "reward," huh? it's funny how we sometimes make poor eating choices to reward ourselves, but i've never met anybody who enjoyed more than the first bite or two of a binge, if that. it doesn't give you what you're looking for.

so in a way, consider this experience a gift: the gift of knowledge. you can USE it to help guarentee your long-term success. not so bad when you think of it that way, huh? there are no mistakes if you use every experience to learn and grow.

and as far as starting over, every day, every hour, ever minute is a new opportunity to make choices that support your goals.

peace out to you.

Thanks again Goddess, you are exactly right is all that you posted to me I will take this past experience and use it to my advantage...my whole trigger I know was a bar of Hagen Das Icecream, and then it was everything and anything for there on. I know at least that next time I will remeber this post and what everyone has written and then politley tell my boss to take his icecream elsewhere. Thanks again everyone. Have a great day

The mind set is it. 90% mental and the rest is all applying yourself. Keep recommitting and stop before you eat and ask is this on program? Is this going to be helping me or is it hindering,,,,if it is hinder REALLY think about it.


Good Luck