I think that PB is a good choice if not consumed in mass quanities. I for one am the ultimate PB fan as well.
I can also think of other things other PB that would be worse. Like if chocolate was combined. Now that you constitute guilt...atleast for me.

Tiskk....but a flesh wound....If you are that stressed about it, drink your water, pick yourself up, brush yourself off and move it on. What is done is done and you can move forward......
You are doing great btw!!

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"Summer of PQ"
19 pounds down....
Atkins

Kat-If it's any consolation, almost everybody I've met with any amount of long-term success low carbing started from exactly the same place, including me. That mental switch is part of the journey, and, in my mind, that's what makes the difference between losing a few pounds and putting your weight struggles behind you forever.

I'm really good at reminding people "this is a way of life, don't think diet, stop worrying about how fast, yada yada yada." Well, there a reason I'm so obnoxious that way: I know all the thinking pitfalls because I was the WORST offender...I had my end date ready to set in stone before I started! How's that for dieting? Counting the seconds, man. Somewhere along the way if you stick with it, you realize that you never go back to your old ways unless you wanna go back to your old pants size, so you darned well better figure out how to make this work for you and become just how you eat. I'm far from perfect now, but even on my "worst food day", I can't hold a candle to my old habits. And that's good.

But you're doing well, really. Consider that mini-meltdown a quick, relatively easy lesson in your journey toward moving forward. It is a process, not an event.

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Fat Baggage- Is Yours Packed?

goddess-There's a big lesson here for me-I have to let go of my perfectonism and bend a little (just a little ) now and again. Over the longhaul there will be good days and not-so-good days and slips and "failures" as this is life. I realize that my mindset has always been-I'll follow this perfectly and be a good girl and lose the bazillion pounds that I need to and then I can move on. Pretty darn silly as it has never worked before.

I'm doing a lot more thinking this time around-duh-and sorting out the ways that I sabotage myself. And, oh boy, thinking of this a a diet that I must follow perfectly so I can one day go off it, is one of the biggies.

I'm so grateful that I found this forum and am thankful for your advice and thoughts-and for everyone else who has taken the time to write in and help. I know I'm not alone in this and it helps tremendously. This is a heads up that you're going to hear lots more of my venting and whining in the future!

its just one day...its when u let those day go back 2 back...you know what im saying....lol good luck where all here 4 eachother!!!! we can do it..lol

I read everyone's posts and boy, you got some great advice here.

I have and do struggle the way that you are. It is that 'perfectionist' streak that I have to battle. Because to me it says, well, you've blown it so go ahead and eat what you want, you are already a loser. That is the dangerous, self-defeatist kind of talk that I work very hard to overcome.

Like everyone said, 2 spoonfuls of pb? Who cares? But to me that would have made me feel like a failure and I would have gone off plan.

Don't know if you are as extreme with your thought processes as I can be.

But one of the wonderful side effects of doing this WOE/WOL is that I have found a way to combat this kind of thinking and it has made me a much more positive person.

Oh, and I would NEVER think this about someone else, just myself, because that is how the negative self talk works. And, until I started this journey, I didn't even realize how much of it I was doing.

So stay strong Sister! You can do this! And you will benefit from a lot of the 'side effects' that come with it!

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OMG Mab, you just nailed it for me. I am the ABsoLUTE queen of negative self-talk. And lemme tell ya something, ...it don't get ya no where!

Too often we equate how "good" or "bad" we've been eating-wise with our worth as a human being. And it serves absolutely no purpose whatsoever. Actually, the only purpose it served was to give me an "out" and allow myself to get fat again.

I am constantly catching myself saying horrible things about myself, ...not just about food but other stuff too.

There's something to be said for being tough on ourselves ("Kelly, you are NOT gonna get to where you wanna be if you keep doing this!" usually said after eating donuts....)
BUT there is absolutely no need to be so hateful to ourselves. (If you are anything like me...)

Here's to loving ourselves just a wee bit more!!!

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Highest recorded weight: 103.2kg/227.04lbs (03/15/08)
Current: 97kg/213.4lb-13.64
Goal:150
"Resensitizing myself to the urgency and severity of my weight problem is important in keeping myself motivated. I have to remind myself that my body will not tolerate this abuse forever." Jeannette Fulda, aka PastaQueen

Guys-I see that you understand that this had NOTHING to do with eating peanut butter but rather, as Mab pointed out, the need to be perfect and follow the program oh-so-perfectly. I'm glad I had this forum to kvetch on as it helped me catch myself before I went seriously nutso and blew the whole thing.

I've been a lot easier on myself this time and have taken the ups and downs and not so perfect days with a relaxed attitude that I could never muster before. Reading how other people on this forum have handled the good and not so good days has helped a lot. Thanks.

Just hang in there!
One thing I love about this site is that I know I am not alone and that others have the same feelings. Which helps me feel like I belong and more, well, frankly...normal. LOL!

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Nobody else judges us when we go off plan, so why should we judge ourselves? It's something that happens, it's a reality, we just have to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and get back on plan. The secret is to tell ourselves that, when we do fall off plan, it's no excuse to stay off plan for even one more minute, get right back to it. So, if you eat the donut, then go wash it down with a big glass of water, and get back to your on-plan eating.

None of us are perfect, we can't expect perfection, in ourselves or anyone else. All we can expect is to do the best we can.

And, we have to learn to LIKE ourselves for who we really are, inside, and not judge ourselves for what we are on the outside. It's just a facade, after all. We each are worth a lot, and we need to learn to respect ourselves the way we respect others. This is something that has helped me a lot. I used to really not like myself, for various reasons. When I decided that I was worth liking, that my family & friends liked me, regardless, then it became a lot easier to see my self-worth and to begin liking me.

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Nita

Here, here! Well said Nita!

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