Hey all...this is crazy. I have been doing atkins since 8/26 and am down about 18 pounds. Well, my SIL started a diet when i got married (7-13-02) She was always a large girl...maybe 240? i had been up around 160 at that time. (prevous weights around 130 were normal...but thats another story). Well after my wedding i gained like 30 more! Anyways, i saw her at christmas last year and she was maybe 10 pound smaller than me. i knew she kept losing and losing though. Tonight i saw the fruits of her labor...she is a size 4 and smaller than what my goal is! Its amazing to see her go from plus size to tiny size! I am happy for her, but at the same time mad at myself and jealous! Has anyone ever had this situation before??? She cut portions, eats low fat, and exercises a ton (an hour of ab videos everyday and then some). At least I am losing weight a fun way. I love low carb. I feel like such a loser though for being jealous. I am trying to use it to motivate me and to get myself even more serious about my own goals. Any advice about how to deal with the jealousy is welcome....

I think you have the right idea. To be honest with your feeling and to hear yourself say them out loud let you own your feeling, which I think is good. Us it; try to think of way to make this situation a plus. You have seen your friend do it you know it can be done, you have living proof. Find a way to make her victory, your. Emotions can be very powerful, make the power your. God Bless.

If God is for me, who can be againist me?

July 21, 2003 - 246.7/215/145 or 165 (we will see)

I know what you mean! I have a friend I love dearly. When I started WW back in 2000 I convinced her to join with me. WELLLLLLL, she got to goal (I never did, as a matter of fact, I got on the scales this morning and I am now 1 pound lighter than I was after a year of WW) and kept her weight off. I gained mine back and I had to deal with my feelings. After much sole searching, I realized I was not really jealous at her just mad at myself for not being in control.

Susan ( AKA Northwest)
207/173.5/160/
size 16/12/8
LC since 4/03

In my opinion, the best way to deal with it is to NOT. Let it go. And don't use her situation as a motivation, that never works. Trust me, I know.

I'm always trying to use my vacations as motivation to lose weight but then, I usually end up gain 1/2 or all of it back when I return. Same thing happened to me last year.

And what if I never go on another vacation? Don't I need to be healthy no matter what?

Same for you I think. Who cares what she's doing? Do what YOU need to do for yourself.



Member since 2001
http://www.ilovelowcarb.com
Size 24(start lowfat)/Size 18(start LC)/Size 14/Size 8

Meanwhile she's losing weight on a low fat diet and is probably hungry most of the time. You're not. If she stops the exercise she may very well start to regain some or all of her lost weight. after losing 80+ pounds on low fat in 1994-1996 I broke my little toe and was unable to do the 20 miles a week of power walking I was doing. Then it didn't matter what I ate I started gaining weight. You're not a loser for feeling that way. You don't want to take her accomplishment away from her, you just want this for yourself as well. And you've found the secret to success-low carb!
Rob
310/246/180

Rob has a point... I have a freind who lost mucho weight, low fat and cycling many miles on a regular basis. He quit cycling, and is now heavier than ever.

My opinion is, her path is hers, and yours is yours. If you are comfortable with your path, her success is hers and has no bearing on you. Rejoice with her and celebrate her accomplishment.

Rob's right. Be glad for her that she reached her goal weight, but don't envy her. She's going to have to work hard to stay there.

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"Sometimes I think you have to march right in and demand your rights, even if you don't know what your rights are, or who the person is you're talking to. Then on the way out, slam the door."

Vatekbabe,

I have a similiar situation but not exactly. My sister had Gastric bypass and I was doing atkins before she had her surgery. I had lost about 65lbs at that time and felt good, but had more to go. I knew she was going to be losing weight fast so I tried to get the jump start so I wouldn't be so jealous. She was 300 then... now all I know is that she came here yesterday in a size 2 pants. I'm a little jealous, but, I'm healthier than she is, and stronger, and I didn't have to go through a painful recovery. So look at your positives and draw off of them. I am happy for my sister because she was so unhappy, and its worth seeing her happy. Just remember that you have positive things going on too. Stay strong!

Thank you all for the advice
Some good things to think about. I have done the low fat thing before...not fun. I am just going to work on making my low carb program better than ever so that I can meet my goals as well.