<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>I yam what I yam, and that's all that I yam. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Popeye said it. It worked for his frame of mind to be "okay" with who he was. I'm going to give it a try.

I have been feeling completely overwhelmed lately. A wise woman pointed out to me a few weeks ago that if I overheard someone being as hard on a friend as I am on myself, that I simply wouldn't stand for it.

She's right. I wouldn't.

I'm going to try to just take everything in stride and not be so dang hard on myself. I'm not falling into complacency, mind you. I'm just going to lighten up a little.

Perhaps my attitude adjustment will help in ALL arenas of my life, including weight loss.

Any comments or suggestions from anyone else concerning attitude/frame of mind concerning weight loss would be helpful.

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April

The face of a child can say a lot -- especially the mouth part of the face.

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One day at a time. Thats enough to handle.. and there's a saying, "Don't pull tomorrows clouds over todays sunshine..".. Don't sweat the small stuff... Choose your battles, don't try to carry all of them... enough of philosophy, lol... good luck.. just love yourself, because you are a unique individual. There is not another one on this earth like you.

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In the cookies of life, we are the chocolate chips.

i'm really glad to hear you say this, april. you are such an inspiration to us all ... but you need to give yourself a littl more love once in a while!

this is my favorite, i think i've posted it here before. it helps me "accept" the mistakes i inevitably make each day ...

"finish each day and be done with it.
you have done what you could.
some blunders and absurdities have crept in;
forget them as soon as you can.
tomorrow is a new day.
you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
- emerson

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Carrie
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Re-started 5/8/2006
My new journal: Just Breathe

I know exactly what you mean about self talk. . . where anyone else on this board would get from me "relax, don't panic, you're doing great. . ." what I say to myself is "you loser, why is this taking so long, why can't you just lose those last few. . . "
I guess we are our own worst critics.

Stacie
222/150/140ish

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>I guess we are our own worst critics. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Yeah, and we need to just stop it, eh?

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April

The face of a child can say a lot -- especially the mouth part of the face.

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I run thru life thinking I do the best I can every day. Some days are better than others, some days are worse..... I try to just keep on going, and not let those bad days get me away from the goal I want to accomplish. I try not to beat myself up, I try to keep up with my exercise, and water(ug still a trial to get this in), and if I eat off plan, oh well, tomorrow will be better, or the next meal will be better. Life is too short to be obsessed constantly about what I can, can't, should, shouldn't eat. Granted, I got this big by not paying attention to my food and exercise, but I am working on it, and I know it is going to take a long time, and I am not going anywhere but to the smaller sizes when I go shopping.
So, sit back, pat yourself on the back for doing the best you can. Look at your old pics and remember how far you have gotten, be thankful for your family of friends you have encouraged and that have encouraged you. And if it means you have some of that Apple Strusel you were making, ok, have a little. I know it is hard to continue on this WOE when all around you are eating other things you want to eat, I watched my DH eat cookies last night (I bought them for him on sunday and havn't had one yet...don't plan on) But I really wanted something after watching him.... I got out my wok and made some popcorn... maybe not the best choice, but it was that or cookies, and I felt popcorn was better than the cookies. But oh well, Went to the gym this morning, ate breakfast on plan and today is a new day.
Hope some of this makes sense to you. Sometimes being a duck is the best example I can give you... just let is slide off and don't turn around to pick it up again.
Hugs to you.

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carolyn in texas
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onward thru the fog

Thanks for the post April.

I really need to take all this advice, especially with the way my life is going lately. I didnt get the job I wanted, boyfriend troubles, and then my dog died!

But things are looking up. I got a call yesterday for an interview for monday. So, I'm just going to keep trucking along.

I'm starting to realize that my happiness does not lie in how much money I make or what title follows my name or even what size of jeans I can get into. I realize that in order for me to be truley happy I need to start by accepting things the way they are and change them if they can be changed otherwise, dont sweat it. Plus, I have a great support system, both in real life and in cyber space.

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"Things are only as important as I want them to be"

I tend to get down on myself, then I put it into perspective by saying "This is not a race, its a lifetime of eating and healing your body" every little thing that we do today, will make our body more healthy and make us feel better. So if we do 6 good things and 4 mess ups, we are still doing good. Its not a race, its about the loooooooooong term plan. In 20 yrs from now, our quality of life will be good because of the little things we did today. Big Picture, and OMG April, you have accomplished so much, more than most do in a lifetime. You should be so proud of yourself and you are an inspiration to us all !

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2001 = 230 lbs
1/2003 - 218 lbs
1/2004 - 187 lbs
current 195/goal 150

Hello April, Your right if it worked for Popeye then it should work for us too! There is a lot of good advise here. I know it is hard when you are looking at all the troubles that surrounds you now but like they said "look at all you have overcome already" You are a STAR and you will overcome! I still haven't heard from you on the last PM I sent, does that mean you don't want to do that? Just let me know. I just want to help.

Been trying to reply to you with a clear, concise, and coherent response all morning. If these idiots at work would leave me alone for just a moment, I could reply to you.

Men. Can't live without 'em....can't live without 'em...(I'm the only woman who works here...YIKES!)

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April

The face of a child can say a lot -- especially the mouth part of the face.

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