Pregnancy and Low Carb lifestyles

[angelndskies35]

Thanks Summer, I have stopped the Aspartame completely and I harldly ever use Splenda either. I've been eating lots of fruit as well. Angel

[Leasa]

Niki, Im so sorry you are going through this at a time when you least should be. I just wanted to say that the fact that he is willing to go to counseling is a good thing, and it could open up the lines of communication between you two. When I was pregnant with my dd my husband was constantly stressed about money. He suddenly took on the role of primary bread winner (in his mind) and really struggled. Im pregnant again and now at 25wks I see him starting to do it again. Pregnancy is really a profound responsibility so it really isnt that surprising that some men dont greet it with open arms. Just remember right now your primary focus needs to be on having a healthy full term baby, the rest will fall into place as it should. Please do not feel badly though, your husband is an adult and as your partner he is responsible as well for things getting to this level. My hope for you is the counseling will teach him how to communicate his needs to you, so you have a fair chance in all of this.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your baby girl.
Leasa
One more thought...I love my husband dearly and Im fully committed to our marriage, but am I always in love with him...nope cant say Iam. Being in love is one of those fairy tale things, its nice but it comes and goes. You have been married a long time, and sometimes its a job and other times its alot of fun, but it cant be fun all the time. Maybe a counselor can give your husband a little reality check on what real life marriage is about, it just doesnt sound like he has fair expectations.

[sizzlingseven]

Thanks Debby, I have let my relationship with God fall by the wayside, and feel guilty for coming to him now when times are tough (a fairweather Christian?) but I think that may give me the strength I need to take the steps to rekindle the love in this relationship. My DH is atheist so praying together may not work for the both of us.

Thank you for your well wishes. I hope things work out.

On the other hand, baby is still fine, still moving around in there - just 13 weeks left! Can't wait!

Hugs, Niki

[jestey]

Nikki, Leasa saidi exactly what I was going to say about love/in love. So true! Every marriage has it's ups and downs - after all we are all human and we all have warts, etc. I have been married 11 years, and there was definitely a period there where the prospect of being with my husband forever was NOT appealing. It is OK to not be in love - you end up falling in love all over again several times through a successful marriage, anyway, and that is FUN.

A couple of things you said - he internalizes everything, but you still managed to discuss this issue without killing each other, and he has agreed to go to marriage counseling - sounds to me that you have a healthier relationship than he realizes. It is profoundly difficult to fight without drawing blood, so you are already a step ahead. Also, the prospect of having children can be extremely disturbing to a marriage. Just keep doing what you are doing, make sure to talk about it.

[sizzlingseven]

Hi Ladies... thank you so very much for all your kind words of support. I've taken everything you've said to heart, and am hoping that I can turn this mess around. I've started reading a book called "The Proper Care and Feeding Of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger and its really given me a different perspective on how to make our husbands happy. I think I got lost in the ideas of my husband wanting an independent woman, so I started becoming too independent - alienating myself from him, from my responsibilities at home, and just living life like a single person. I was putting friends and myself before him. I think he felt like he wasn't appreciated, and now in retrospect, he's probably right. So, for the last two weeks I've been treating him like a king again - remember how we used to act around our husbands when we were courting them? - making nice dinner, showing interested in his needs, back massages, telling him that I love him and appreciate all the work he does around the house, etc. And, I've even made huge effort to reincarnate the love life, which has turned into 3X/wk, so hey, what man can't be happy about that? I've encouraged him to go golfing, which he has twice this week - I mean, come on, how else to make a man happy? His spirit has been great and he seems happy, but I just don't know if this is a facade to keep me from getting stressed. My new motto is just to put him first in my life again, and to think about his needs. I hope that will keep him home.

We went for the 3D ultrasound this week, which gave him a chance to see the baby move around - it was amazing. Also, last night, for the first time, he felt the baby move around - she was kicking really good. I just hope that he can bond with the baby more and realize that moving into his own apartment is not the answer to making everyone happy. He did agree to see a counsellor, but we haven't initiated the appointments just yet.

So, that's the latest. I'm feeling better, but the last two weeks have been tough. Thanks again for all your support.

[sizzlingseven]

I've been using this thread as a sounding board, which of course I appreciate, but wondered how everyone is doing carb wise? I've certainly made it clear that I'm not worried about carbs, but I think for the last trimester, so that I don't gain too much more (I've gained 60 so far) I'm going to try to keep the carbs under 100g. Starting tomorrow, of course Is anyone else tracking? How is everyone feeling?

[cowgirl1973]

Hello everyone.....just got back from the OB/GYN. He measured my fundus, and has come to the conclusion that I am too big for my dates. :O !! So, I have to go in for an ultrasound on June 3rd. BTW....I have six sets of twin cousins, and my hubby has twin sisters. So, the odds are NOT in my favor, but I will take what I can get .

Keep your fingers crossed for us!

[Knowles' Darlin]

cowgirl....congrats on the pregnancy! I go for my ultrasound on Wed. to date the baby due to atkins throwing off my period. Looks like a XMas baby tho for me. My hubby and I too have twins running rampant so I'm looking forward to hear that there's only one in there (already have an 8 year old) LOL.

[cowgirl1973]

Oh Knowles, I am so happy for you! My due date is November 17, but they are taking my baby on the 8th, as it is a planned c-section. I can breed like a champ, just can't birth them real well, i.e., I don't progress. It's a bummer, but this is my last pregnancy, so I am making the most of it.

I bet that you are looking forward to seeing one. I had a u/s @ the beginning of this pregnancy cuz I was bleeding, and they had to take two different types of scan, cuz they were looking for the heart beating. Knowing my luck, the got one baby on the abdominal scan and another on the vaginal scan. Hubby was kinda estatic to hear the possibility of twins....he's been strutting around here like a rooster wiff the "I'm da man" aire to him. LOL.

X-mas baby.....hmmmm, looks like we're pretty close! I'm sooo excited for you!!! Let us know about that u/s. I can't wait to hear your results!

Good luck, and happy, healthy pregnancy!!

[Knowles' Darlin]

ty so much cowgirl!!!

had the u/s today....had both a transvag and abdominal. Saw the heartbeat in my lil honey roasted cashew!!!! So precious. Hubby was in awe and kinda dumbounded through the whole thing, he's so cute!

Looks like Jan. 9 is the official due date with 38 week c-section being the week of Xmas. I'd really like to see if I could plan it for the morning of Dec. 24th as that's a huge day for my family (German's who celebrate xmas eve) and it'd mean a lot to me. I have no family in my area so it's not like I'll miss out on the christmas events by being in the hospital and I know my ex will bring my son there.

Worst part about today was the bloodwork. Even at only 8 weeks they did the one hour glucose testing today. I'm an AWFUL stick so it took 8 pokes between my arms and inner wrists to fill all the vials. I'm sore now, but well worth the cause

[cowgirl1973]

WOW!!!! 8 pokes?!?!?! OUCH! I am a deep poke, but easy to get really, if the person is trained right. LOL, it sounds like our pregnancies are similar, doesn't it??

Well, today is the day for another u/s. I am so excited, anxious, scared...you name it! I can't wait to see my little one, but what scares me is the possibility of seeing two. My MIL had twins, and she has told me the stories (thanks mom, I love you for it) of how she was pretty much stuck to the house, sleep and wake patterns, you name it. But, bless her heart, she has offered her help with the baby(ies). She's had six kids, so I trust her (my DH is the oldest).

Aren't hubbies cute?? I can't wait to see Jim's face today as he is looking at the scan.

Aren't those 38 week planned c-sections cool?? Mine happened to land on my birthday, but the doctor refuses to operate on my birthday, he says the baby deserves it's own day, so I am spending my b-day in the hospital, but that is recovering. He is gonna take it the day before. What a birthday present! The highlight of my birthday will be the nurse asking me if I have passed gas yet! LOL!!

Keep in touch and let us know how things are going!

[Knowles' Darlin]

lol @ passing gas for ur bday!!!

OH do I know the whole twin thing!!! They run on both the maternal and paternal side of my family heavily...and my FIL is a twin. So I was a tad nervous and relieved when they only found one lil cashew!!

G'luck and let me know how it goes!

[sizzlingseven]

Hey to K/D and Cowgirl - congrats! I'm so surprised about the glucose testing at 8 wks. I had mine at 28 weeks, then another one at 30 weeks, because they found I wasn't producing enough insulin to bring the number down fast enough the first time. Haven't gotten the results from the second test yet.... will see how that goes.

this is my first, so every experience is new for me. I've gained 70 pounds so far, and have 9 weeks to go. People keep asking me if I'm having twins because my tummy is so big, and I wish I could say yes, but nope - just one in there... here's the "tummy shot" from last week... I also have an ultrasound picture of the baby at 28.5 wks at the "finally pregnant - now what?" thread. We went for 3D ultrasound shots and this was a great one of her sucking her thumb.

Anyways, keep posting and good luck with your babies!!!

[Knowles' Darlin]

looking fabulous sizzling. This is my 2nd pregnancy thus the 8 weeks glucose test because of problems at the end of my first pregnancy. It's not normally this early but better safe then sorry.

[cowgirl1973]

First off, Nikki, you look fab!!! And the pic of your daughter was sooooo adorable! I wish they had u/s like that here in Michigan where I go.

Second.....had my ultrasound. The baby was a) extremely active. Would not hold still for anything. Covering the ears, sucking thumb, and "mooning" us. Boy, I tell ya, nothing bashful about this offspring! And, b) well, b is for BOY!!!! We decided on Christian James for his name. And c) there was only one baby. Man I felt like kissing the technician!!! But, it took over an hour for the scan 'cuz he just would not hold still. It was like we woke him up, and he got frisky or something. It was truly amazing, especially with him playing "peek-a-boo" with his pee bug! LOL. Like I said, not bashful at all. Like his father. They gave us a sheet full of pics, and as soon as I get them scanned, I will attempt to get them posted .