I Realized that I'm the FAT Friend now!!!

[Tina]

Many of us have had one over the years...the friend that is always fatter than you are. The one that you can always count on to be bigger than you so that you don't feel quite so bad about how big you are. Well it dawned on me about 3 months ago that I am the fat friend now. My best friend and my other 2 really good friends have all lost weight and are looking good and I am the one that is bigger than them now! Talk about a wake up call for me. I was so self conscious that I didn't even go to my best friend's pool all summer long just because I knew how depressed I would feel seeing her look so great...and she really didn't have a hard time at all losing the weight. For me it is always a constant struggle to drop the pounds and keep them off and it can be so depressing seeing someone else (even though I love her like a sister) lose weight so easily.

Anyone else out there have this particular realization???

[CushieButterfield]

I have always been the FAT friend except once when I had lost on fen/phen and had a friend that was as fat as I had started. I know how great it felt not to be the fat friend anymore. I loved it. When I went back to it I just settled in. I definitely am sick of being the FAT one. I did hang out with a girl in high school that lost 80 lbs back then and has kept it plus more off (but in very unhealthy ways). It was really hard for many years to be around her. She would constantly says things like, "oh my God why didn't someone tell me I was so fat, I was so disgusting".

Hello, fat chick here. Making me feel bad.

I figured she had to say those things to keep herself feeling better. Now she's stopped doing that, she had much better self-esteem, still not great but getting there. She still keeps a large photo of her and her parents when she was huge and people always make a big deal out of it. I can't wait until that's me.

[Maxibee]

My best friend decided (very subconsciously, I'm sure) to follow the Dr's orders for once and lose the weight.....right about the time I was set to deliver my daughter. So, when she came to see me and the new baby, (she lives 180 miles from me) she had only lost about 15 lbs. (Her doc told her to avoid carbs and she did....only eating less than 10 carbs per day for months!)

So, by the time I took my 7-month old with me to visit her, she was down 75 pounds to a size 8 or 10, from a size 18/20. And here I was, back to my weight I was before I got pregnant, and THAT was about 60 pounds overweight.

She did not throw it in my face or try to make me feel bad in any way.....I just thought the timing was interesting.
Anyway, she has regained every pound of the weight, plus some. I am weighing in around 226-228, and she told me Friday night that she is around 240 now......she's 5 or 6 inches shorter than me. Now SHE'S the fat friend. All she talked about while she was losing was how much she was losing. I try not to talk about lowcarbing too much since I think she feels bad enough, having gained back all the weight she lost.

Oh, and one of our mutual friends has been around 350-375 for years....and is now down to about 180. Now, the biggest fat friend is smallest. Strange how we think about this, isn't it? I just want to look better and feel better and live longer.

Someday, I'll give you girls the "skinny" on my sister, who had gastric bypass 3 years ago. Now I'm the fat sister.....

[reneed70]

I've always been the fat friend/sister too. I never minded since I still had pretty good self esteem, but then I kept gaining and gaining and then I wasn't just fat, I was huge, and people would stare and make rude comments. Finally after watching my mother lose and keep off 70 lbs I was convinced to try this. In 8 mos I've lost 102 lbs! Yes, I am still the fat friend but that's okay cuz I am still fabulous! LOL Ladies, I wish we could all understand that self confidence and feeling sexy comes from within. None of us would stack up to Hollywood standards but who wants to? Only a dog wants a bone! Be proud of yourselves! I know we are all gorgeous women!
Renee

[Tina]

Thank Goodness!!! I thought I was the only one who had that thought about the fat friend....my biggest friend has lost over 100 pounds in the last 2 years and I am thrilled for her. I do however, get thoroughly sick of hearing about how much she has lost and how she went from a size 28 to a 16. Then I feel bad cause I think that. That's alright...it might take me a while and I'm prepared for that but I'm going to lose this weight. Thanks!

[heykim]

"...competing is kind of stupid anyway. SUCCESS is not a f***ing limited commodity. we all can have as much as we want. my success does not detract from anyone else?s success."

just a little something i read RIGHT before coming to this thread...
now i dont know if it was HER quote..or something she had heard before... but dang.. it SO applies here dontcha think? MAYBE yall should get together and work AS A GROUP to help one anoteher so you all can be successful at the same time.... thats what friends are for eh?