My Fertility specialist is getting me down...

[kenzieq]

Lori, I would like to share my story with you. I have been married for seven years, five of which we have been trying to conceive a child. We are a young couple. I am 26 and my husband is 28. I have pcos, am on glucophage and have done probably 15 rounds of clomid in the last 2 and 1/2 years. We have also had two IUI's. I have endometriosis. They found it when they did laproscopic surgery in December to remove a blockage from a tube. You talk about ups and downs with clomid. I hate the stuff But I did it because I don't ovulate on my own. Now my husbands sperm count is excellent. So you would think that since we've done all this stuff and I lost 30 pounds last year low carbing, we should be able to get pregnant, right? Well, my husband and I both feel that God has been preparing us on this long journey and we are now ready to adopt. We had considered IVF, but the cost is just too much for us when it's not guaranteed. We would rather spend that money to adopt. All children need a good loving home and we pray that God would allow us that blessing. It's just too hard emotionally to continue fertility treatments. Could adoption be an option for you? Best of luck to you and God Bless you and your husband.
Mckinsey
Restarted low carb on 3/24/04
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[Rob]

ThePippinator
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posted 04-01-04 02:42 PM
Mckinsey,
Thanks so much for sharing you heart with me. I's so nice to have others to talk to who have experienced these things. We will be in the same place if the IUI doesn't work, as IVF is not an option, financially. I believe the Lord could provide those funds if He wanted us to go that route, but who's to say He even wants us to be parents? I agree that there are so many children who need a loving home. Past experiences have shown me that the art of parenting is definitely not biological. However, we may be on the wrong end of the spectrum, so to speak, for adoption. We are very close to the age limit, as my husband is 49. We're "old married folks" who've only been married a year! I guess that's why we're on the fast-track of fertility...
Thank you so much for your encouragement,
Lori
Posts: 12 | From: Deltona, Florida | Registered: 03-04-04

[RQP]

Lori, DH and I have been TTC for over 6 years now and after 6 miscarriages and 5 failed IVFs you can imagine we have pretty much given up having a family (and for a multitude of reasons we will not be adopting). There are a couple of things you should be considering:

1st: low sperm count is VERY solvable - esepcially if you are moving into the IVF arena
2nd: blocked Fallopian tube/s are VERY solvable
3rd: age of ovaries? Ok, I got a lot of 'must be old eggs' comments from the REs we had (some of the best in the country, including the famous, "Cornell" in NYC). They are a couple of new studies out that are suggesting that maybe women are NOT born with a fixed number of eggs. But since there is nothing you can do about the age of your ovaries/eggs... don't fret, move forward. And Summer's advice is excellent here: KEEP ON GOING.... add the nutritionals, keep the water up and stick to your LC guns.
4th: change doctors. Not kidding, most REs are super positive, and very encouraging. If you have a Dr. that is focused on your weight you need to tell him/her: "Look... I'm working very diligently on the weight issue. There are plenty of women in their late 30s who are overweight and getting pregnant and having healthy babies (re-read some of the above posts). Let's get beyond my weight and focus on the things we CAN do something about. If you (the doc) cannot get beyond my weight then we need to find another doctor."

Just my two cents - but I agree... time is not on your side and being proactive about losing weight and finding an accommodating doctor is KEY!

God Bless and good luck to you!

[ThePippinator]

Rachel,
What an encouraging post! I think the worst part about this struggle with infertility is that I know there are so many dear couples who never succeed. My DH and I just found each other, so although we are OLD married folks, we are relatively new to all of this. Our first IUI was unsuccessful. I was crushed, as I thought it would work the first time...I guess I'm pretty naive in these matters. I have a very different heart- and mind-set for this one, which we just did on 4/16. I won't allow another emotional crash. I can't even fathom the pain you must have experienced and continue to deal with. There are answers that we just won't get this side of heaven. Thank you for the points you bring up. This WOE has certainly helped my mindset, as I know I'm eating better than I have in years, and that confidence, along with some meager success on the scale, has allowed me to stand tall when my weight is brought up. Right now, I don't see IVF as an option due to finances, but if the Lord wants it, I guess He can provide the funds. I can say one thing I have realized: if we get pregnant, it won't be our doing, or the RE, or anything...only God can make this miracle happen, and my DH & I have to learn to be content with what he chooses for us. That's the really hard part.

I wish you the best,

Lori
297/275/165

[canterburygirl]

Lori, big big hugs coming your way. Over the last couple of weeks Ive started researching PCOS because my ex and I broke up partly because there wasnt a 100% guarantee I could have kids.\
Imagine my surprise when I discovered that low carbing is helpful for PCOS.. and Im about to trial Metformin. A lot of research that Ive come across online refers to Metformin and Clomid being taken together. My sister is actually taking part in the trial and while its only been two months, she's feeling really positive. Either way, you're only as young as you feel, and I really hope you and DH become preggers. It seems an awful world when those who dont care or deserve to be parents can conceive at the drop of a hat yet those who would welcome children as the blessing they are have problems such as yours..

[ThePippinator]

Thanks, C-Girl!
Just a note about the metformin (glucophage). My doctor has me taking that along with the clomid, and I have a new name for it: PUKE-ophage! Start SLOWLY and increase the dosages just as slow. I actually thought all of the nausea was morning sickness--what a dope! We're on our third round of IUI, so we'll see what the Lord has for us this time!
Hugs-back-at-ya,
Lori

297-272-165

[angelndskies35]

Hi Pippin, big hugs to you and your husband. I wanted to share a small portion of my story with you since you seem like a woman of faith. My husband and I went to a fertility specialist 7 years ago and the dr. told us that we would never ever be able to conceive a child. The test, I can't remember the name allowed dye to be placed in the tubes to see if they were any good. On the screen, I saw the dye begin to spurt everywhere because as the dr. told us later that my tubes were badly mangled and totally destroyed because of a birth defeat and could not be repaired. My husband and I went home and prayed and told God that if he wanted us to be parents, then he would have to perform a miracle in our lives. We were convinced that it was possible because we had seen miracles before. Years went by but we never gave up. When we bought our first home 5 years ago, we even set aside a bedroom for our child and we bought an outfit to bring the baby home from the hospital. After all of this, I can say that that God came through for us and our baby will be born this November. God is still capable of miracles, never give up and continue to do everything in your power to make it happen. I believe that losing 45 pounds and changing my WOE did help, even though I'm still way overweight and 35 years old . My prayers are with you all because I totally understand. Angel

[jestey]

Wow, angel, what a story! How wonderful for you that your dream has finally been realized. Faith works.

[ThePippinator]

Well, I'm here to report that my doctor is NO LONGER getting me down...we found out this week that I am pregnant!! We are in shock and awe, but mostly grateful to God. I have a ton of questions, but will re-read the pregnancy thread before I ask them...
Hugs to all,
Lori

Atkins since 1/30/04
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[spiceys]

Pipp

I usually don't post on here a lot but I do read everyones post. I just want want to know that I am so happy for you because I remember reading your post when you started this thread.Congrats and enjoy your pregnancy.

[huskersfan869]

Congratulations--jsut when you think it will never happen is when God makes it possible! When we give up doing for ourselves and let Him take it is when it happens. I believe that is part of my success with weight loss too! I was finally ready to let go and let someone else help! I too am hoping to have another little miracle to love someday soon!!!

[angelndskies35]

Pippin, I'm so excited for you all, isn't God good? He never lets us down. WOW!!!!

[cowgirl1973]

Lori.....is your hubby a Three Stooges fan or what? My hubby is to the extreme....even thinks that he has "Curley Power" lol. I told him though, if he even so much as n'yuk n'yuk n'yuk or woo woo woos at my baby, I'll "'soitenly" slap him, lol. He already has all three kids n'yuking all over the place and my oldest son imitates Curley. Curley Howard is my son's hero now, even did a report on him for school. So, Lori, if this is the case for you as well, I am here for moral support. LOL!!! Boys...they can be so cute!

[imallset]

Congrats to you!!!!!
I am here to tell you that I am now 45, and will be celebrating the 8th birthday of my twins ( boy and girl conceived by AI) on June 15th, and the 12th birthday of my son (also AI) in October. I took fertility drugs for 4 months for my first, and TWO WEEKS for my twins! My husband and I tried for 10 desperate years to conceive, and I cannot imagine my life without my children. They plain and simple are my life. The only problem with being an "older" mom is my energy level with the twins...........wow they have it all and I try to keep up!!!
Again congratulations to you, keep us posted on your progress!!!

[jestey]

Pippin - how wonderful for you! This is something you have waited for so long! Congrats!